When I counsel with people who struggle with deep feelings of shame, guilt, and regret, I
sometimes suggest that they design a personalized liturgy. In what follows, I walk
through the example of a woman who has had an abortion, and all that led up to that
choice, and all that follows in someone whose conscience is alive. But you can tailor it to
whatever struggle you or another person needs to deal with. Where is your struggle? Is it
temper or bitterness? Sexual immorality? Amnesia toward God? Gluttony, laziness or
greed? Judgmental words or thoughts? Gossip? Obsessive worrying? God welcomes all
who are weary with sin.
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Designing your own liturgy of confession will help you to think through exactly
what you need to bring to God, and what you need from God. It will give you serious
words to express your sorrow, regret, guilt and pain over your abortion. It will lead you
by the hand to God’s mercy and to his washing away of your sin and guilt. The parts of
this liturgy in italics are taken and adapted from the General Confession of Sin in The
Book of Common Prayer. Even when your thoughts and feelings are chaotic, these words
can serve as your guide. They are a channel for honesty. Instead of wallowing in misery
and failure, these words help you to plan how you will walk in the direction of honesty,
mercy, gratitude, and freedom.
I suggest that you pray out loud. It helps you to remember that you are talking
with someone who is listening. You aren’t just thinking things inside your head. Use this
prayer to express the gravity of what happened. Use it to remind yourself out loud that
God’s mercies are deeper than what you did or failed to do. Read through this prayer and
meditation first. Then go back through it, writing out your own words to personalize it.
Express your honest story to God in response to hearing what he says to you.
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